Getting Over the Jitters Before You Speak
by: Patricia Fripp, CSP, CPAE
You're waiting your turn to make a speech, when suddenly you
realize that your stomach is doing strange things and your
mind is rapidly going blank. How do you handle this critical
time period?
People ask me this question in all my speaking classes, but
there is no single answer. You need to anticipate your
speech mentally, physically, and logistically.
MENTALLY:
Start by understanding that you'll spend a lot more time
preparing than you will speaking. As a general rule, invest
three hours of preparation for a half hour speech, a six to
one ratio. When you've become a highly experienced speaker,
you may be able to cut preparation time considerably in some
cases, but until then, don't skimp.
Part of your preparation will be to memorize your opening
and closing -- three or four sentences each. Even if you
cover your key points from notes, knowing your opening and
closing by heart lets you start and end fluently, connecting
with your audience when you are most nervous.
LOGISTICALLY:
Go to the room where you'll be speaking as early as possible
so you can get comfortable in the environment. If you will
be speaking from a stage, go early in the morning when no
one is there and make friends with the stage. Walk around on
the area where you will be speaking, so the first time there
is not when you deliver your talk.Then, during your
presentation, you can concentrate on your audience, not your
environment.
PHYSICALLY:
A wonderful preparation technique for small meetings is to
go around shaking hands and making eye contact with
everybody beforehand. For larger meetings, meet and shake
hands with people in the front row at least, and some of the
people as they are coming in the door. Connect with them
personally, so they'll be rooting for your success. We as
speakers are rarely nervous about individuals, only when
faced with the thought of an audience. Once you've met the
audience or at least some of them, they become less scary.
It's totally natural to be nervous. Try this acting
technique. Find a private spot, and wave your hands in the
air. Relax your jaw, and shake your head from side to side.
Then shake your legs one at a time. Physically shake the
tension out of your body.
Try not to sit down too much while you're waiting to speak.
If you're scheduled to go on an hour into the program, try
to sit in the back of the room so that you can stand up
occasionally. It is hard to jump up and be dynamic when
you've been relaxed in a chair for an hour. (Comedian Robin
Williams is well known for doing "jumping jacks" to raise
his energy level before going on stage.) Sitting in the back
also gives you easy access to the bathroom and drinking
fountain. There's nothing worse than being stuck down front
and being distracted by urgent bodily sensations.
Patricia
Fripp, CSP, CPAE is a San Francisco-based executive speech
coach, sales trainer, and award-winning professional speaker
on Change, Customer Service, Promoting Business, and Communication
Skills. She is the author of Get What You Want!, Make
It, So You Don't Have to Fake It!, and Past-President
of the National Speakers Association. She can be reached
at: PFripp@Fripp.com, 1-800 634-3035, http://www.fripp.com
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